Monday, 30 December 2013

Part 15 - The year of the bucket list!!!

Wow what a year 2013 has been! As usual I have been rubbish at updating the blog but thought it would  be nice to document some momentus events.

Braeburn Vs Kilimanjaro

During half term a group of 18 students and 2 members of staff braved high altitude, freezing temperatures and not so pleasant toilets to try to conquer the world’s tallest free standing mountain – Mount Kilimanjaro in aid of KESHO and KSPCA. Students and parents had an early start meeting at school at 4am to get luggage packed and on the road. The anticipation, excitement and apprehension were palpable. The first few days were tougher than we had expected. From Day 2 onwards we saw students slowly experiencing the effects of altitude- early morning wake up calls from students who were sick in their sleeping bags, quiet walks whilst others battled with headaches and feelings of nausea. Day 3 saw a number of students vomiting as we reached altitudes of 4600m; definitely not our finest moment but once against our students showed compassion towards each other, support and an abundance of hugs were provided. As we reached each camp our story was spreading and many others climbers were interested to pass on their words of good luck and discover how we were all getting on. When we reached our summit camp – Barafu Camp we met a gentleman who had heard about this crazy school group attempting to climb to roof of Africa – he wasted no time in telling us we had no chance of making it to the top! – A challenge our students strongly accepted and took a “watch this space” stance on his less than kind words. That evening, knowing we all had a tough night ahead, students were provided with letters from home – a truly special moment, we had tears before they had even opened them, students relished in sharing their parent’s motivational messages with others and we laughed and cried as a group. We headed off to bed hoping to get some sleep before our 1am wake up – sleep became more and more difficult with altitude and this was not helped by the howling winds ripping through our tents. At 1am we were up and dressed in what felt like 900 layers ready to face the Baltic temperatures. The pace is slow as you make your way up to Stella point and Uhuru Peak and tiredness really takes over your eyes, every step causes strain on your breathing and as you are walking up, you see many people being brought back down the mountain, having being unsuccessful in their attempt. Braeburn kept trudging on inspired by each other, driven by the beautiful sunrise and determined to achieve their dreams. On many occasions Mr Read and I felt emotional watching the strength of our students. We finally reached Stella Point and had Uhuru Peak insight, by now temperatures were way below freezing and we had limited time before we would have to move back down the mountain. So despite our bodies craving rest we had to continue. The last few steps before reaching Uhuru Peak were painful and cold yet exhilarating, we had done it!! The first group of 12 made it to the top with many more still on their journey. Although we could not stay long due to the ever dropping temperatures those few minutes were filled with relief, pride and amazement. We are immensely proud of all our students; I have never witnessed such perseverance, compassion and team spirit in a group of young people. Although the climb back down the mountain and eventually after another tented night, back to luxury was tough, every child bounded with the sense of achievement they all deserved. In the end all 20 students and staff made it to Stella Point and 19 to Uhuru Peak – an amazing feat! It was just a shame we never got to see the man who doubted our abilities. Through sponsorship and a bake sale we managed to raise approximately 159,000Kes for our two charities. A huge well done to all the students who took part, remember you can achieve anything if you have the belief in yourself!

Following on from conquering Mount Kilimanjaro Alex whisked me away to the South Coast for a weekend to fulfill another wish off my bucket list!! SKYDIVING! Wow what an experience, it true Kenyan style it took hours to get sorted an in the plane, but once we were all sitting in the plane I coudn't contain my excitement - despite the rather large man sitting on me instead of infront of me! It was finally my turn to jump having watched Alex fall out moments before I was ready- I saton the edge of the plane overlooking a beautiful coastline and was more thanhappy to just fall forwards! After a few twists and turns we finally striaghtened into our free fall, i could not breathe or catch my breath and was slightly concerned that if the free fall continued I would die but fortunately I managed a few sips of oxygen before my instructor pulled the parachute! Due to our lack of weight weight we had a slow decent to the beach but that just enabled me to take in the scenary. We had a slight crash landing which despite being on sand was still pretty painful but no broken bones and soon taken over by the feeling of euphoria!!

What more could 2013 offer .... A Proposal maybe??!?!? What a lucky girl I am following a fantastic year of setting up my own gym school, getting a promotion at work, spending an awesome summer in the UK, climbing Kilimanjaro, throwing myself out of a plane and now I am an engaged woman!!! Following the perfect proposal, dream engagement ring and fantastic future husband! It's safe to say 2013 will be a difficult year to top! Here's to wedding planning, fulfilling more of the bucket list and continued happiness, fun and love!



 

Wednesday, 8 May 2013

Part 14 - Family, friends and new beginnings!!


 
As promised I have tried not to leave it too long between blogs! It’s amazing I am actually even more super organised than normal this term yet still find little time to write a blog, possibly something to do with motivation.(hmm I clearly started writing this blog a long time ago ;s)

My final thought from my previous blog stated that I may have an exciting prospect – well that paid off and I have finally found a hobby on the coast which is sustainable, challenging, stimulating and motivating …. I have started dance classes It started with my desire to learn tap dancing, I love the sound and decided you are never too old to learn. Luckily there is a wonderful lady in Mombasa who teaches dance and who would allow me to join one of her classes, I was so excited which was then topped off by her saying “you can stay for the ballet class straight after if you wish.” it has been approximately 15 years since I last ‘pas de bourree’d’ into a ballet lesson, but I absolutely love it. Must admit I am pretty useless at tap, still trying to figure out where to put my weight and when but I have 100% fallen back in love with Ballet, it is just a shame when I was a child I didn’t have a teacher as wonderful as Jean. You'll be pleased to hear that since writing this part of the blog i have received some new tap shoes and the tapping is coming along :). I have my first dance show in a few weeks!! Ha I am the oldest by about 13 years!

When I was about 20 I started a formal bucket list, I have always said there are certain things I would like to do before I die but never really kept a record. So I created a list and ever since then I have been constantly updating the list, unfortunately more get added than get ticked off, however in the last 5 months I have managed to tick 3 off; learn to scuba dive, try a cigar and get a tattoo. There are certain points on my list that I never imagined I would ever be able to achieve. The main one being to climb Mount Kilimanjaro – I looked into it a few years ago and the amount of money you have to pay plus the amount of money you have to raise in sponsorship just seemed unattainable. I am aware that teaching has certain perks, finishing school before 5pm, long frequent holidays, rewarding children… but now after many years of missed skiing trip opportunities I can finally add school trips to the perks. I am getting to achieve my dream and climb Mount Kilimanjaro with a school groupJ I cannot wait, we will climb in October.

So I have officially signed up to stay for another year at Braeburn. I love Mombasa but as a teacher it is well known that it is not a great place to stay in terms of pay, I would earn more stacking shelves in Aldi! It’s easy to say “yes, but the lifestyle is awesome” and for 1 year living by that mantra is fine, however it soon becomes apparent you need to make more money or move on L. Unfortunately many of my closest teaching friends will all be moving on this summer and for me to stay this extra year I knew I needed to earn more money. I moved here to see more of the world but just can’t afford to do so, what little money I save throughout the year funds my holiday in the UK. So I plucked up the courage to finally ask the school if I could run a gymnastics club on a weekend, to my delight they said yes and have even allowed me to run it using the school premises. The club has been running for 2 weeks and I am thoroughly enjoying getting back into coaching and the numbers have increased each week. So excited about the prospect of displays and in-house competitions. There’s a long way to go but as they say ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day’.

One of my excuses for taking so long to write this blog is that quite simply I was so busy over the Easter holidays, largely due to the fact that I had back to back visitors!! Yey was so awesome to have people visit, always nice to put things into perspective. First I had my 2 friends Jen and Allan visiting from Hong Kong, they very kindly hosted me in 2009 so it was fantastic to be able to return the favour. They were staying for 8 days which meant we had a lot to squeeze in, not helped by the fact that I had been having a terrible time with our housing situation. However we made the most of it, the 2 highlights have got to be diving with sharks (even though I was sea sick and absolutely freezing between dives) and seeing a cheetah with her 3 cubs on safari!! The cheetah paraded right next to the car it was amazing!! Makes me realise how lucky I am to have all this on my doorstep. It’s amazing that although Jen, Al and I only really met in 2007/8 and soon after meeting they jetted off to Hong Kong,  that we have been able to stay such good friends, conversation never dries up, I love their life philosophies and time spent with them is generally easy, entertaining and heart-warming! Really hoping we can coordinate a future holiday and meet somewhere in the middle.

Immediately following Jen and Al’s departure saw the arrival of my Mum, sister and nephew! Was so good to see them; Skype, Whatsapp and phone calls are all good and well but there’s nothing quite like receiving a proper hug off your loved ones. Kimberley has always wanted to visit Africa and go on safari so this holiday had a lot to live up too. I think there were times of sheer amazement but also of brutal reality of life. It was fantastic to be able to go on safari, seeing a ridiculous amount of animals including another cheetah, we camped under the stars and waded through some very slippery mud, but it all added to the adventure. We had days on the beach, by the pool in a luxury hotel, at the water park, feeding the giraffes at Haller Park, go karting and shopping for souvenirs so I felt it was also important to show them the other side of Kenya, especially my 8 year old nephew who luckily has had limited exposure to poverty. To be able to show them where people live on rubbish dumps, walking through mud and faeces with no shoes on and where children work from the crack of dawn until the sunsets, can be quite an awakening experience.

Another of those experiences that I felt was necessary was to take them to Kongowea market, I did my usual spiel before we left ‘take off jewellery, don’t take any valuables, hide you money somewhere, don’t wear a bag, and try not to look so much like tourists!’ Hmm easily said, as I looked around and saw these 3 very pale white people covered in mosquito bites, sunburn and my nephew wearing a full man united kit!! I think not looking like tourists was a cry to far!! So off we went, knowing that my family would not be purchasing any second hand clothes, but would hopefully learn something from the experience, and that we did ….and that something was to probably not listen to me, as it was I that found myself being barged front and back and felt a sneaky hand creeping into my pocket trying to grab my money!! The cheek of some people! My natural reaction was to defend my ridiculously small amount of money, but still it was the principle. I grabbed the man’s hand and firmly (and not so politely) informed him to get off my money, before pushing him and herding my family into the nearest duka to rearrange my personal belongings!! Laughable now but I’m just glad it was me and not one of my family!! A bit like when we went to Haller Park and Alex had been informing everyone how a mongoose may look cute, but they can also be very nasty! He then proceeded to edge closer to said mongoose to take a picture, I’m sure you can all guess what happened next! Yes the mongoose bit him on the toe!! Again very glad it was Alex who then had to go for rabies injections and not my family. It was so amazing to see my family and although it was another emotional goodbye it was nice to know that it’s only a couple of months until I’ll see them again. Woohoo I can’t wait until July!!

As I mentioned earlier we had been having a few housing issues. On a positive note Alex moved back to Mombasa!!!! On a not so good note the dream house we fell in love with fell through (the landlord was a disorganised plonker) which meant after wasting a day in tears I had about a week to find a new home. I looked at 10 houses in the space of 2 days before my guests arrived and nothing met Alex’s high expectations. The agent of my current property (also a plonker – there’s a reoccurring theme) was ready to kick us out (perhaps because I had refused to pay my last month’s rent as I felt it was the only way we would get our deposit back!) anyway I found a house but it had tenants (not the dream house but it ticked all the boxes) it was now a race against time to find out if we could move in before we would get kicked out.  Luckily the owner of my current property had finally been contacted to inform her of how useless and corrupt the agent she employed was. He had been lying to her about how much rent we were pay and taking the community fee for himself. The landlady couldn’t apologise enough and allowed us to stay as long as we needed. Happy days ….. so as of last Wednesday we officially moved house and Alex and I get to start the future. Still need to make the house homely but it’s certainly getting there.

So all in all life is very good at the minute, really disappointed that many of my colleagues and friends will be jetting off to pastures new in the summer, but just means I have a great excuse to fit in some further travelling and go and visit them all. Lots to look forward to in the coming months including turning our house into a home, flying home for the summer, meeting more of Alex’s family(Alex will be coming for 2 weeks too), 2 wonderful weddings, and some great family and friends to catch up with. I will not make false promises that my next blog will be more entertaining or at least posted sooner, as unfortunately I know all too well how little time I get to sit and reflect formally on my experiences.

Final thought – I read this quote on a teachers wall last week and it stuck with me … “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”     Albert Einstein





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Monday, 14 January 2013

Part 13- Festive fun and a few run ins with the law!


Happy New Year!! I think I should have perhaps made my new year’s resolution to make more of an effort with my blog!! Maybe I’ll make that a late addition!

Well apologies again for my poor performance in 2012, I find very little time to sit indoors, with my laptop burning my legs, whilst sweat runs down to my feet! However I do have a few tales to share from the festive period! Hopefully I will start to write shorter more frequent blogs J

As many of you may be aware …… I WAS BRAVE!!!! I got my first tattoo (only tattoo – sorry mum and dad) much to my dad’s disapproval, his very words were  ...’I thought you had more bloody sense’ clearly not, sorry dad. I decided that, 1. I have been boring my whole life and never rebelled, 2. When I’m 80 no-one will see me naked and my boobs may be down to my waist by then anyway so even I won’t be able to see it and 3. I need to prepare myself for child birth by indulging in painful experiences!!! I did not expect for one of those experiences to be a full body massage!!!! Many people opt for a massage to relax them, take away stress and leave them feeling refreshed! Apparently by asking them to smooth our knots this signed me up for; feeling excruciating pain whilst she massaged giant knots out of my ankles!!! Yes ANKLES people! Followed by knots in my thighs, buttocks, lower back, upper back and shoulders. I can honestly say I don’t think I’ve ever experienced pain quite like it! I was nearing the point of feeling faint. I have never felt so pathetic in my whole life; I could barely walk to the car park never mind drive! This then made me question both having children and getting a tattoo – how could I possibly cope with the pain. I spent the next week preparing myself and decided to just enquire with the guy that I had been recommended – I text him stating I wanted a tattoo, but wasn’t sure exactly what or where, as there were 2 I liked, I stated my concern about the pain and whether or not we would need a consultation…. 5 minutes later I had an appointment for a 1 hour tattoo the next day at 9am!! At least this gave me minimal time to back out. I arrived for my appointment and continued to display my concern about the pain, the guy helped me design the tattoo I looked through 35 pages of fonts just to make sure and checked and checked again that I had made no spelling mistakes!! Can you imagine! My besties from back home sent me some encouraging pictures of tattoos in the local area which filled me with ….. I’d like to say inspiration but to be honest … dread! Many looked like a child had been let loose with a needle. I decided this was a good time to ask the tattoo artist how he trained-bearing in mind this is Kenya, probably not the best question to be asking whilst he’s shaving my body (making me feel like some kind of silverback) in preparation, particularly when his response was ‘Well you would normally do an internship or something but this is Kenya so I bought myself a tattooing for dummies type book created in the 70’s and taught myself!!’ I think he saw the sheer horror in my face so attempted to reassure me. ‘I started 8 years ago and my first tattoo was ok, I mean I’m loads better now but the customer never complained!’ I was curious to how you learn tattooing surely you need something to practice on and as he has just said this is Kenya, apparently he has 7 sisters and practiced on all of them, therefore there are probably at least 7 girls walking around Kenya with extremely dodgy tattoos. Anyway I felt I had come too far to turn back. I lay on the couch and prepared myself for torture, knowing that if I flinch I could end up like one of his sisters. Fortunately I am hard as nails and managed to lie still throughout, I must admit it was not a pleasant experience and in parts bloody painful but I was happy with the end result! I choose the quote a year ago and researched hundreds of others but felt this one suited my lifestyle the best and reflected exactly how I feel about my family and friends back home.

Christmas was a bit weird this year, my flat mate had jetted off for a 4 week holiday in South Africa and Alex could only be here for Christmas day, so I kept myself busy playing Mother Teresa at charity events and had the pleasure of visiting an orphanage called New Lights to deliver some food and gift donations. It was a very humbling experience and something I would like to continue to support. The home consisted of 26 boys all without parents but receiving a fantastic education making them all so ambitious and driven. The children were delighted to receive books and games and were so grateful to have had them donated. So next time you’re throwing anything out bear me in mind J

Christmas day was fantastic, Alex arrived Christmas eve so we had dinner and crawled into bed to wait for Santa, I read him the book ‘Twas the night before Christmas’ and sang Christmas songs J (much to his disapproval). We had a champagne breakfast on Christmas morning (another new tradition – along with the book readingJ) and then opened our presents, I was thrilled to receive a new camera lens off Alex, and I now have a much greater zoom range and can’t wait to try it out on safari. We were fortunate enough to receive an invite for a group Christmas at the same place I went last year, great people, great setting, great food and amazing weather. We spent the whole day in the pool, drinking, eating a traditional Christmas dinner, mince pies the lot. Then more drinking in the pool. Topped off with the nicest bloody Marys on Boxing Day produced by a great host – thanks Tania!

Alex left on boxing day which gave me 4 full days to do nothing but watch 24 – it is ridiculous how many episodes I managed to get through- by the 4th day I was starting to believe I was a special agent myself, driving like a manic, weaving through traffic – it was time to go cold turkey!. Fortunately New Year was just around the corner and there was a group of us travelling to Watamu for a new year’s eve/day party. Alex arrived at 11.30pm so was promptly pushed out the door with a shot of vodka and a beer to head to the party before midnight. I was relatively sober when I left the house, I remember the countdown, and then very little after that! I have a sneaky suspicion the reason for this was my tipsy Skype session with Mrs East, who felt it appropriate to make me join in her drinking games, bearing in mind I have no way of knowing if she is cheating … and of course she was!!! I have never in my life been told to down 5 fingers of drink, mainly because you only have 4 fingers to measure with, whilst holding the glass but I was by this stage unaware and just downed it anyway – after this the night is a blur, I do recall speaking to a Korean man who I was calling my brother because we had similar surnames, I rocked the dance floor during Gangnam style then at 4.15am demanded a kebab (which I have never had/found after a night out) fortunately Alex is a legend and drove us to this place that can only be described as food poison wrapped up in plastic bags and zebra print! I was drunk and I quite frankly didn’t care what I ate – luckily my insides are now like steel and survived the possible tragic illness the next day J which meant we could wake up and start the party again on New Year’s day!!

I am still working through my ever growing bucket list and have managed to tick off getting a tattoo and smoking a cigar over the Christmas holidays, my flight to Nairobi got upgraded but I hardly think that classes as first class so that could be the next on my list, that or owning a pair of Louboutin shoes J not much need for them in Kenya though. Travel is definitely taking over the list, so many places I want to see in the world. I have decided that if I stay one more year in Kenya then I need to see more of Africa I’ve been pretty rubbish so far! Although I did have my first Nairobi trip at the start of the hols without travelling for 10 hours on a school bus! Alex and I decided we should try and meet in Nairobi, as for one of us to travel for a visit for a weekend is just not feasible between Uganda and Mombasa. So we had our first trip, I met lots of his friends, we went to Giraffe manor, met with some old Mombasa friends for lunch, went on a game drive and had the nicest salad I have ever had, at Karen Golf Club. We have our next visit planned for Feb where we hope to drive up to Naivasha – another first for me.

I have to admit I have had a few run ins with the Law recently – I think it’s quite easy to become complacent here especially when it comes to driving. I think at one point or another I have quite possibly broken every driving law (although I actually only know about 4) my first infringement came at the airport when I was kindly taxiing Alex to the Airport, I drove in blissfully unaware of any rules, followed a car through some bollards, which did not faze me in the slightest- apparently nor did the zebra crossing I was driving on. Alex thought this would be a good moment to point out my fault to which I responded in a comedy voice ‘ooh I broke the rules, but who’s gona stop meeeee!!! Feeling very smug I hopped out of my car to the feet of a police officer – apparently he was there to stop me, he was all for taking me to his office and “fining” me apparently. ‘Sorry I just followed the car in front’ is not a good enough reason. ‘Madame you were not reading the signs of the road!’ again pointing out that there actually weren’t any signs did not work in my favour! Luckily Alex came to my rescue and smoothed it over with some Swahili chat. However I was convinced he would wait for me to come back to my car, so I walked rather inconspicuously back to my car and dashed out the car park – ensuring I did not drive through any ‘no entry’ signs!

My second run in came in the centre of town, where I should of known better – town is usually rife with police officers attempting to control traffic, I was approaching the centre from out of town having a quick chat with my house mate arranging some plans- I had thought to myself ‘ I should probably try to end this conversation before I reach town, but before I knew it I was in town and just as I saw the back of one policeman in slow motion I started to drop my phone but simultaneously  interlocked eye contact with another!! NOOOOOOOOO I was still in with a chance the back police man was controlling the traffic of the roundabout I was entering the roundabout all I needed was for him to continue to allow the flow of traffic from my direction, but no of course he had to stop it, as the eye clocking policeman marched over to my car, he started to do some hand signalling which I took to mean you may drive off, so started to proceed- apparently I read that situation wrong as he yelled at me to stop. The conversation then went a bit like this: Policeman: Madame why do you think it is ok to talk on your phone when driving? Me: (frantically trying to think of a feasible excuse) Erm I don’t I’m really sorry. Policeman: Why were you talking on your phone? Me: Erm I don’t know, I’m really sorry. Policeman: It is not ok! Me: I know I am really sorry – AWKWARD SILENCE – Me: (smiling sweetly) I am really sorry I won’t do it again! Policeman: Do not talk on your phone when driving! Me: I won’t I promise – as he waves me on – Phew! There are only 2 possible reasons for the lack of bribery required and they are, either my smiling sweetly was HIGHLY effective or (which is more likely) he decided that the central lane of a roundabout surrounded by people was not a good place to practice corruption!! Either way, happy days and a lesson learnt!

I have also had my first tourist experience in a long time, and finally visited town rather than just driving through it, I had an educational tour of Fort Jesus, and although it was possibly not as exciting as I had anticipated it was great to learn some history.

Despite having many future plans to discuss I feel this is an appropriate point to leave before it turns into a book!

Final thought: ‘I am challenging myself to find an activity/hobby to grasp my attention, commitment and motivation. I have one exciting prospect lined up this week – I shall keep you informed’

 
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